2.27.2009

What's Going On

My world, and the people in it, got horrible news this week.

A friend and co-worker's 6-day old baby died yesterday.

How do I write that without sounding as though I am telling someone else's news; exploiting a tragic situation?

I don't know. This is the only place I will make it about me, because this is not about me. But my grief is real, and great, and it compells me to write, as surely as anything that I can't comprehend makes me want to write. And this is incomprehensible.

And I could write the longest post in the world, and it still wouldn't make this make sense.

My thoughts, my heart, my prayers and my tears go out to my friend and her family.


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22 comments:

  1. I'm so sorry. I had the same dilemma about a year ago - a blog I read, someone that I was emailing and following closely - her daughter died. And I was so devastated. I had to write about it. Even though it wasn't my story.

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  2. I understand.

    Nope, there is no way to make sense of it.

    xo

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  3. I can't even begin to imagine...can't even come close to going there. Some things you'd never get over.

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  4. There is nothing that makes sense of this.

    It is so so sad.

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  6. I get that feeling too often. It isn't your story, but it changes your understanding of the world to experience that terrible things happen for no good reason.

    I'm sorry kgirl. For you and your friend.

    I think when you share this story, you honour that child by acknowledging them.

    I try to do that more now that I know few people are willing to do so.
    I cannot imagine what it is like to lose a child and have that tragedy compounded by being so terrible it cannot even be named by most people.

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  7. I don't think there is anything exploitative in feeling for another parent, in understanding just a fraction of their pain by virtue of the fact that what they are experiencing is one of a parent's worst nightmares. I hope she is able to talk with you or someone, because she must right now be drowning in grief. I'm so terribly sorry for her, because even though I don't even know her, well, we are parents. you know? And it's a terrible thing for her and those aro9und her. I know virtual hugs are blah blah, but please know I'd give you a real one if you were only here. (but it's 2:30 am so you don't want to be.)

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  8. My heart is weeping, aching. I'm so sorry.

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  9. that is so terrible...i can't even begin to imagine..

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  10. There is no greater loss than losing a child... it's something families never recover from fully.

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  11. You know you have my heart, K.

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  12. You're last post is so moving (about the coffin) I can SO imagine you needing to talk & write about it. It's not your grief but in a way it is. You & your friend are in our thoughts and I really wish her all the strength she can get.

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  13. It's an awful, awful feeling, this grief that isn't technically yours but at the same time that you feel so deeply. We all share in kids so much, and losing one is just so wrong.
    Someone I know in town lost their baby earlier this year and it was HORRIBLE. Just the worst, worst thing.
    xo

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  14. wow. wow.
    this is so very, truly awful
    hugs to you. and to your friends.

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  15. Sending support, strength and love...

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  16. my heart just dropped to the floor. do i know this person?

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  17. No one should ever be asked to make sense of that kind of unfairness.

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  18. Oh K... I am so sorry. That is the worst kind of terrible.

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